Your words have meaning. Suffering & struggle don’t have to be life long situations, unless your words make it so.
We have ALL been there. Shit goes down, struggles come into our existence, we get an injury, money falls short on bills, we get overwhelmed with work, or even have major trauma hit us. We are shown empathy and sympathy from those around us and in order to downplay the impact it has had on us we reply with “Oh, that’s life.” But is it tho? Or are you manifesting situation after situation, health issue after health issue, trauma after trauma because you’re speaking it into your truth? As a Certified Law of Attraction Coach, let me walk you through what your doing when you are always replying “that’s life”.
Power of thought or suggestion has been studied backwards and forwards. The overwhelming consensus is that your words and thoughts DO shape your surroundings. You may be annoyed at all those positive people that float around but studies show their life is more than likely better than those who bitch all the time or view life as a constant struggle. Their life isn’t immune to struggle and chaos, they just view it differently. Believe it or not, their brains even look different! Their neural pathways are more lit, and their amygdala (fight or flight section of the brain) isn’t as engaged as those who’s outlook is more negative.
Yes, I said negative. When shit goes down and you think “that’s life” you have a negative outlook on how things should be. If you voice that to others who are sympathizing with your situation then you’re spreading a message that life is shitty, and that is negative! The more you say “that’s life” the more it will be. The more you make “That is being an adult” something you say to a younger generation when talking in the context of a job you hate, bills you struggle to pay, or society norms you son’t align with; you’re also spreading the message that being an adult sucks. Which it doesn’t have to unless you BELIEVE it does! When you’re low on money and you say “I’m broke” when you are not out of money, you’re throwing out messages of not having enough. The possibility of an unexpected expense coming up that will use what you have left, in turn making you truly broke, is much more likely. How many times has this happened to you? If you’re not sure, you’re bound to pay more attention now that you have read this.
Phrases like the above are used by most to underplay their suffering or downplay someones annoyance with every day life. It is an attempt to normalize suffering as a way of life which is a lie. It is an attempt to normalize that the only way to be an adult is to hate what you do. Again, a lie. It’s a way to trick yourself into thinking you never will have enough and that too IS A LIE! Our words have so much power and they become our base beliefs. You may say you don’t believe life is all lows and no peaks but I’m calling bullshit if you use theses phrases. Nobody that I know who has a positive view on life uses these types of appeasements. They know the power of words and would never attract suffering to themselves.
I say attract because, well I am a Law of Attraction coach. The energy you put forth with your words, mindset, and actions shape the world around you. What you say has an energetic vibration that tells the Universe what you want. Say “That’s Life” when shit goes down and you will attract more shit. Your life WILL become that and you have made it so. Instead, how about saying “Ya, things are difficult right now but it never stays that way”. Or “This is just a moment and things will be better soon”. These kind of phrases will get your life in an upswing much faster than just verbally settling for chaos and technically inviting more.
When we look at the most successful people and those who are always coming out on top, there are some pretty big things to take note of. They don’t complain when stuff goes downhill, they instead look for a lesson or they do things to better their circumstances, if they have the power to do so. When things are great, they show gratitude for those things and they talk about them with happiness. These are the things negative people see as bragging…that’s jealousy for a life they wish they had but don’t go create it. You don’t see vents on social media, you don’t see constant complaining to friends, and you don’t see them spreading negative messages. that IS NOT because they are fake and only “show” the good stuff. It is because they KNOW you don’t give energy to the negative stuff! Talking about it, posting about it, and venting about are all feeding the negative and it WILL grow! When you notice a positive person go silent, that’s when they are working through some stuff that you may never know about. They won’t put it out for others to hear because YOU are not their concern. The Universe is listening and THAT is what they care about.
Again, don’t take my word for it, try it out yourself. Those who have known me my entire life can tell you that I was the constant negative, venting, pessimistic, complaining, whining person on their social media feed. I was the one who would dump my problems all over anyone who would say “How are you today?” I was the one who was jealous of all the people who “hid” their suffering from me and only “bragged” about good things all the time. I was YOU and a swift kick in the ass and a total transformation when leaving a toxic life changed EVERYTHING! All I am saying is be mindful next time things aren’t as you would like them to be. Reframe what you say about it, or if you say anything at all. Do this over a period of time and just see if it changes anything. I mean, if your one of the people I am describing than you have nowhere to go but up right?
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