I am a woman which means I am multiple things. There are also multiple things I am not.

It is well touted that women were many hats such as nurse, cook, maid, mom, wife, friend, caregiver, referee, activity planner and the list goes on forever. These are the “nice” qualities associated with the female gender. Unfortunately, there are some toxic things that have also been attached to the ladies and it is time that WE do something about it. WE are the ones who caused the stereotypes so it is up to us to drop some shitty habits and start taking accountability for how we treat others, especially other women.

I am a woman but I am NOT your gossip friend. Don’t come to me with other females names and their business. I have zero interest and you immediately are telling me that you are out speaking about me also. Gossip is RARELY true and if there is truth to it, its so small that the full story can’t be seen. Other peoples lives are not my business. Speak unkindly about someone who isn’t there to defend themselves is unfair and how shitty is that to just give me your version and expect me to jump on your judgmental train with you anyway? If others want me to know details of their lives, THEY will tell me, and they are who I will hear.

Speaking of judgment, just don’t. I don’t care about your view on what someone is wearing or a decision someone else made. You know when you do that, you are just projecting out all YOUR insecurities and I am actually looking at YOU and feeling sorry for you because of the judgments made. Did you not have nice clothes growing up and now you make fun of others? Were you told you talk too much so you complain about how so and so never shuts up? Did you have a lover cheat on you and now you assume someone is “letting their spouse get away with cheating”? I literally NEVER looking at who is being judged, I am ALWAYS looking at the one judging.

I am woman but I am not willing to break other women down to build me up. I am the woman who will see you struggle and dive to catch your crown from hitting the ground. I am not your competition, your enemy, or your jury. I am your sister, your friend, your partner. We need more integrity in our character and if I tell you I got you, I GOT YOU! Not if you do something for me, not if you meet certain standards, and definitely not for me to steal your thunder or your ideas. I just got you, because that’s the woman I am.

I am woman but you won’t see me with the groups of women at gatherings. You will find me with the men who aren’t looking around the room and making comments about decorations, the food, or the venue. I won’t be offering helpful advice that sounds like “Oh this is beautiful! If it were me the only thing I would do next time is…” which is straight up telling someone they weren’t good enough. I won’t get in the trap of bitching about my husband because the other women are as I have in times before. I have no reasons to bitch and I bet many other women feel the same, and make shit up like I have. I won’t disrespect my husband to be part of a group.

I am a woman and am strong and independent. Where there is a will, there is a way, and I can do everything that must be done on my own. I don’t NEED a man to console me, support me, protect me or manage me. I can’t be managed, and won’t be managed. My body grew a human and I used all my power to welcome that life into the world, I can open my own pickle jar. I won’t act weak to make you feel stronger and I won’t sit still and look pretty while a man does the hard stuff. Try to control me and see where that finds you, try to gaslight me and I’ll beat you at your game.

I am woman and I am soft and vulnerable. I WANT my husband to comfort me through struggles and give me support. My husband matches my strength and when it is depleted, he makes up the difference. I know as a strong independent woman, it takes courage to admit when you can’t. Can’t breathe, can’t cope, can’t lift, can’t reach, and every now and again…yes, can’t open. I know my strength is not an attack on my husbands and my independence isn’t knocking his role in our relationship. My husband is the head of our household and I am his Queen, we are equal. He will never disregard my view nor will I his. We are joined as one.

I am woman and refuse to be the standard edition. I am unfortunately unique but hoping more will awaken. I usually love being the one not doing what others are doing but not with this. Not in a time where the feminine energy wants to rise but so many are pushing it down! WOMEN are keeping women from rising. Attacking masculine energy doesn’t make you more feminine and there HAS TO BE BALANCE!! So for the women who are tearing down men thinking that is where you will find your power, your wrong!! Begin with YOU and how YOU are with other women. Look at your circle and see what boundaries you can put up for other women to STOP being “classic women”. The ones who follow what you model are the keepers. The ones who will then spread the healthy feminine energy to others.

I am blessed to be in small groups of like minded women who feel the same. There are many of us out there just looking for more! It is past time to dump the bad habits and start doing what needs to be done to not wear these horrible stereotype badges we have sewn ourselves, and at times worn with pride. Can you take a stand? Can you set the boundaries such as the ones I have above? Can you give no fucks if it turns into you being gossiped about? Can you stay strong under the peer pressure to not be what has become acceptable, because that’s a “typical woman”?

***My hope with this post is that it falls in front of the younger generation of females. My intention is to make them see that what they most likely grew up seeing from women isn’t right. THAT is why this has continued and women have never been held accountable for these hurtful acts agains other women. I have faith the younger generation came change this reputation.

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